Resource List: 
Navigating the Underground World of Teenagers

Popular Networking/Blog Sites

www.myspace.com

This well-known social networking site labels itself as “a place for friends”. It allows people to post pictures, blogs (like online journal entries), and personal information. Unless the user specifies their profile as private, anyone can access the information on their main profile. Communication is made between “friends.” Anyone that is registered with myspace can request to be your friend. Methods of communication include private messages (like emails), “comments” which appear for anyone to see on your profile, and bulletins, which are messages that post on all of your friends’ bulletin boards, which they see when they login. To access all of myspace’s features, simply go to www.myspace.com and click “sign up” to register yourself. You can then search for people using their name, email address, or school.

Our suggestions:

·         Ask your child if they have a myspace.

·         Check to see if your child has a myspace. Do a search by name, email, and/or school.

·         Create your own myspace and make sure your child accepts you as a friend so you can see all of their profile’s content.

·         Have your child switch their profile to “private.”

www.facebook.com

Facebook started off as a private, college-based networking site, where only students with a valid school email address were allowed to join. Facebook later opened up to high school, workplace, and regional networks. Recently, Facebook opened its registration to anyone over the age of 13. Facebook has more privacy controls than most social networking sites, and each user sets their privacy levels. You can only see someone’s full profile if they accept you as a friend first.

Our suggestions:

·         Ask your child if they have a Facebook profile.

·         Join Facebook yourself, and try searching for your child or their friends. Try searching by school and graduation year. You cannot see a person’s profile until they accept you as a friend.

www.livejournal.com

www.xanga.com

These sites are primarily used to post blogs, or online journal entries. They can be public or private. They are much less frequently used than myspace or facebook. They are harder to search and navigate without knowing someone’s individual profile web address.

Our suggestions:

·         Ask your child if they have a Xanga or LiveJournal, or any blog online.

·         Ask them if they would mind if you read it. If they say yes, check it out! If they say no, ask them why. Discuss how you feel about them sharing personal information online.

www.youtube.com

www.ebaumsworld.com

These sites are a different kind of entertainment for teenagers. They allow users to view homemade video footage. YouTube allows registered users to post their own videos, and anyone can view the videos online.

Our suggestions:

·         Ask your kids if they have seen any funny videos online, and see if they will share them with you. This will give you an insight into their world.

Internet Abbreviations

Here is a list of some commonly used Internet abbreviations. For an extremely extensive list, visit www.netlingo.com and click on their dictionary. Or use www.teenchatdecoder.com to type in any abbreviation you don’t understand and get the "translation."

·         ASL: tell me your Age/Sex/Location

·         BRB: Be Right Back

·         BTW: By The Way

·         GTG/G2G: Got To Go

·         IDK: I Don’t Know

·         IMO: In My Opinion

·         JK or J/K: Just Kidding

·         LOL: Laugh Out Loud

·         LMAO: Laugh My A** Off

·         OMG/OMFG: Oh My God/Oh My F****** God

·         ROFL: Rolling On The Floor Laughing

·         TTYL: Talk To You Later

·         WTF: What The F***

Helpful Websites

www.x3watch.com

X3watch helps you monitor questionable websites. You can download their free program and install it on your computer. Then, when anyone who uses your computer visits a “questionable” website, the program automatically saves that information, including the website address, and periodically emails it to an email address of your choice. If anyone on your computer tries to change the reporting email address, or shuts down the program, you will be notified.

www.cybersitter.com

Cyber Sitter is a program that costs a one-time fee of $39.95 (no monthly subscription fees). It allows parents to set filter levels to block certain websites, records all websites that are visited on the computer, and records both sides of chat conversations from AOL Instant Messenger and MSN Messenger. It also allows parents to set time restrictions for internet use, and sends reports to parents by email. They have a free 10 day trial available on their website.


Helpful Books

Here is a list of books we think may be helpful to you and your family. Please note that we have not read each book, and only present them as options. We suggest that you look at them in person before buying them to evaluate whether or not they will be useful. While some books may come from a point of view that your family does not share, we believe they all have parenting information that can be helpful to all parents.

·         Hurt by Chap Clark

·         Grace-Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel

·         Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott

·         The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids  by Madeline Levine

·         It Takes a Parent: How the Culture of Pushover Parenting is Hurting Our Kids – and What to Do About It by Betsy Hart

·         Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence  by Rosalind Wiseman

·         Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They're Really Saying by Michael Riera

Based on the program "The Underground World of Teens" by Neil Gatten and Amy Anderson presented September 20, 2006 to United Parent Council. 

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